10 Simple Steps to Relational Evangelism (Part1)

Posted: August 21, 2012 in Uncategorized

The Apostle Paul knew the secret to relational evangelism. In 1 Corinthians 9:22 “I become all things to all people so that through all possible means I might save some.”

After 10 years of reaching teens that the church had labeled “unreachable” We have developed 10 simple steps to reaching these young people through relational evangelism. This is by no means an exhaustive list but simply a guide that you can incorporate with the current techniques you are already employing.

1.) Initiate contact

Reach out to them. They are not going to come to you. They don’t know their need for Christ. Satan has blinded them. We need to go onto their turf, their territory. We need to stop focusing on bringing them to Jesus and start taking Jesus to them. Remember Jesus left Heaven and came to us.

2.) Establish common ground

Find something you have in common, (familiar ground), video games, movies, music, sports. Be genuine. We are not used car salesmen. High pressure sales don’t work. They have the opposite effect.

3.) Listen

Allow them to speak. Really listen. Don’t be planning and plotting your next move. Save that for the chess game. Don’t be thinking about how you are going to force feed the Gospel to them. The Spirit will lead you in this area.

4.) If you have been really listening, you probably learned some things about their life that they are unhappy with. Could be a job, their family, finances, a relationship. Any of these are door openers. Find something you can relate to and tell them how you understand because you went through the same thing. Share with them how you handled the situation. When you are sincere and show you genuinely care and want to see them succeed, they will see you are normal and not just a Bible thumping nut case. You are building a friendship and trust as well as earning the right to speak into their life.

5.) Don’t attack

Don’t give into the urge to judge them and tell them all the things they are doing wrong. You may be the life preserver in the raging sea of their life. A beacon of hope. You can be their life boat to safety. A haven in the storm. But this only comes through love. If love is not your motivation they can end up broken on the rocks. Just look back to my recent blogs to read my parable about the life boat. It will drive this point home

Jesus was the Master at relational evangelism. Be imitators of Christ.

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